Do you often think about your child’s future with a sense of dread? Do you think more about what the challenges might be than the possibilities? This year is our daughter Gabbi’s last year in High School and I would be lying if I said no to either of these questions. However, each time I go down this train of thought, I recognize quicker and quicker how unproductive this fear-based thought process is.
What if we were to create a new path or new way of thinking about our child’s future or the possibilities that might exist for them? Some of you might be saying “that’s not realistic”, “you’re putting your head in the sand!” or “being a Pollyana”. Well, call me Pollyana!! I’d rather live in my “happy” world than live in the dark place of fear and worry, how about you??
What are some of the advantages of creating good feelings about our child and their future?
1. The best and most creative ideas come when you are in a positive place.
Have you ever had a challenge at work or home and once you were able to stop thinking about it for a little while, a solution would come to mind? Well, this approach can also work with identifying some creative ideas for our child. Just by taking an optimistic approach and identifying what you want for them, you’re more in tune to the solutions that can come. All the sudden, you might hear about a program that might be a fit for your child or even an opportunity for them to work doing something that’s a match for them.
2. Practice seeing your child happy and their chances of happiness can increase.
We have a great picture of Gabbi where she’s carefree and happy.When I start to think of Gabbi in the future, I picture her like she is in that photo, just living a joyful, happy life.We often get very focused on the current situation and see that as not only our current reality, but our future reality.Well, the fact is that things are always changing and there is a lot of power in envisioning what you want to see and creating some momentum about it.
3. Your child can sense what you are feeling about them and their future so you staying optimistic, helps them stay optimistic.
I don’t know about your child, but Gabbi has always been very intuitive and at times, I swear that she’s able to read my mind!She knows when I’m worried about something even though I haven’t said a word.This keeps me very accountable to being diligent about what I’m thinking!!If you are optimistic about your child’s future, they will most likely feel that they are more opportunities for them.This can help their confidence in themselves and what they feel they can achieve.
4. Do something! Create a solution or get involved with an organization that’s helping create opportunities for our children!
Putting your energy into being part of the solution vs. worrying about the problem will help you feel more hopeful and optimistic.
The vision of Artistas is to develop Autism-Ready communities that creates open doors of opportunities for our children. We know that this vision will only happen with the collective involvement of those that want to see this change coming about and are interested in getting involved to make it happen. We invite you to join our cause!